so when talking about you instead of she or he or they there should be it in that sentence, right? so like if I told someone that you accidentally drank a beer someone pissed into yesterday i'd say 'it drank the beer that someone pissed into', right?
now I'm a little worried that that's where you automatically go 4 an example sentence but yeah exactly
dysphoria's when ur mental awareness of ur gender doesn't match ur physical body & the way people treat you and it's like super disorienting and also fucking distressing
I'm just gonna ignore the implication that example wasn't made up
it's a thing. a thing that gets more atntn wrt binary trans ppl bc it's the criteria for medically transitioning but some of us it hits coming and going
tbh I kinda wondered if you were some kinda trans but I don't usually ask if I don't meet someone at a specificly queer event
i don't know, i just don't like looking either way. i mean, when i had flesh crafting down i tried to go for woman and it felt weird, so i tried to go for it again when i got bone crafting down because it might just have been the incomplete thing, right. but going all the way back looks just as bad
elle says i'm just unreasonably obsessed with looking pretty but that's big coming from someone who spends most of their time trying to look older than they are
but yeah i'd probably have said no i know nothing about things like that
yeah uh like. honestly with my magic bullshit backstory I grew up looking a lot more androgynous than I would have otherwise & given the choice now I would have chosen to be a ordinary human and deal with gender shit mundanely & been a more normal kinda screwed up but
I mean I'm not complaining that a lot of strangers don't know how 2 read me and they tend to go about 50/50 either way when they make the call
yeah like zero pressure to use lables u don't like or want, that's kinda the whole point. but if u wanted to do some research online "nonbinary" & "genderqueer" would prob be useful keywords
it's a serious upside though, even if you'd rather be cattle. just an upside on top of an upside if you ask me, just with a downside in the middle there
[Kit doesn't respond for a long moment. Then, in a rapid flurry of texts:]
wow uh
dude I'm trying really hard to remind myself there's no way you know what ur talking about especially bc I started w/ the "well at least magic transition happened" talk first but buddy
probly u should avoid suggesting to changelings that our durance was worth it
like i could be running around crying about being unable to eat kebab and about having a shadow because my sire kind of botched that embrace of something but instead i could also like the fact that i won't grow old and ugly and am a lot less fragile now
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Because the gender binary is a scam and dysphoria is a bitch and I was a pretentious kid
granted I'm now a slightly different flavor of pretentious young adult and that's why I'm using it/itself these days
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[and, also, a second text:]
so when talking about you instead of she or he or they there should be it in that sentence, right? so like if I told someone that you accidentally drank a beer someone pissed into yesterday i'd say 'it drank the beer that someone pissed into', right?
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dysphoria's when ur mental awareness of ur gender doesn't match ur physical body & the way people treat you and it's like super disorienting and also fucking distressing
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oh, i fixed that. or i mean i'm working on it and am pretty far along. i guess.
i never knew that was a thing.
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it's a thing. a thing that gets more atntn wrt binary trans ppl bc it's the criteria for medically transitioning but some of us it hits coming and going
tbh I kinda wondered if you were some kinda trans but I don't usually ask if I don't meet someone at a specificly queer event
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i don't know, i just don't like looking either way. i mean, when i had flesh crafting down i tried to go for woman and it felt weird, so i tried to go for it again when i got bone crafting down because it might just have been the incomplete thing, right. but going all the way back looks just as bad
elle says i'm just unreasonably obsessed with looking pretty but that's big coming from someone who spends most of their time trying to look older than they are
but yeah i'd probably have said no i know nothing about things like that
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I mean I'm not complaining that a lot of strangers don't know how 2 read me and they tend to go about 50/50 either way when they make the call
yeah like zero pressure to use lables u don't like or want, that's kinda the whole point. but if u wanted to do some research online "nonbinary" & "genderqueer" would prob be useful keywords
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i'll look into it, ty
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wow uh
dude I'm trying really hard to remind myself there's no way you know what ur talking about especially bc I started w/ the "well at least magic transition happened" talk first but buddy
probly u should avoid suggesting to changelings that our durance was worth it
u know
in the future
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i mean even shit that sucks
typically has an upside
like i could be running around crying about being unable to eat kebab and about having a shadow because my sire kind of botched that embrace of something but instead i could also like the fact that i won't grow old and ugly and am a lot less fragile now
why're you folks so negative?
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it does not balance out to a net positive
I really don't want to go into any more depth about the other place than I already have can we please not talk about it
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I mean I guess we tend to just run into the wrong person or right person or something and don't get abducted to a whole different plane of existence
anyway
why'd you end up at that bar? and are you planning on going again?
a friend of mine would like to meet you